How to understand my ex?
Me and my ex has been broke up for a month, we broke up because his mama don't like me. She doesn't like me because she hears things about me that isn't true. If she would confront me about it I would tell her. Me and my ex has been texting as friends, and he has fell out of love with me. He tells me our break up was probably for the best but when he is older we can try to date again in the future. He says he has some feelings, but he doesn't care if I move on or not, and it worries me that he don't care anymore. I want to be with him and I have tried everything to make his feelings become stronger but it doesn't work. What should I do??
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Well, as an Optometrist (since this was categorized under optics)....
I would suggest that you get a pair of glasses to enhance the visual pleasures of your ex.
When young, we try to develope relationships with other people. As we arrive at young adulthood, hormones kick in and modify our behaviors so that we seek the connection with another and we "fall in love" with them whether or not they have any attributes that are beneficial to us. But as this is new, we rest a fair amount of our self worth on their feelings for us. It's OUR feeling for US individually that matter, not theirs. You'll NEVER be happy if you depend on how other people feel about you. Yes it hurts. But learn from it, let him go, and find a new path. Life is short, very short. Find new friends, have new experiences, stay within a moral code for your own self worth, and grow. Soon, and it will be soon, you'll meet the next guy. The same thing will happen. Don't NEED him, like him. You don't want to be dependent and clingy, people don't like to feel weighted down by someone's NEED. Be yourself. Learn about life by reading and reading and reading. The more you learn, the better your life decisions will be. To depend on someone who doesn't see the wonder of you is just stupid. Depend on YOU to see the wonder of you. Then, within a relatively short time, others will see you and you'll have them being all needy and wanty of you! You can't have them all. What are you going to say to the person who needs and wants you when you don't have any feelings for them? That's what you are doing to this person who has no feelings for you whatsoever. Be yourself. Love yourself. Seek a higher guidance, ask for guidance. It'll come sooner than you could ever believe possible.
You're not gonna like the answer, but you just need to move on. Find someone that does want to be with you. Life is too short to spend with someone who doesn't.