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You were 100% from the heart in love with her.

You saw all the signs she was not, but you married her anyway, hoping she would change and fall in love with you with 100% of love from the heart. People don't really change that much before you marry them. Then you expect so much after. You did see it all before. She was not that into you, you carried the love for both of you and her. Then when she left, you were shocked. It was there all along, you just didn't want to or acknowledged to see it. You know your guts. You knew she never did love you in the first place. So now you know. And now you are a lot smarter.

Just remember this...true love never leaves you. You can be sick, hairless, jobless, homeless. Love never leaves you. She will always be there. Now if you think back, and really remember her stuff, you will realize she really really really NEVER loved you in the first place. The fights, the manipulation, the meanness, the rolling of the eyes, it was all there. You never wanted to see it, because you were in love. And sometimes real love clouds our eyes to the reality that this person is not for me, but I'm gonna make all the money I can, and do all I can to make her love me.

And it never does.

So find true love in the future by continuing to be your happy, handsome self and remember there are us women who would loooooove to be with you. You are a real guy and a real man and gentlemen. We have been looking for you all our lives. We are 100% love from the heart women. But those that pick us manipulate and use us. Until we get wise. Now we don't fall for any of that mess. We are waiting for good guys like you.

So don't worry. Love will come. Never change your 100% true love. She will be along soon enough. Take good care of you in the meantime.

I'm still waiting... It's been over 20 years. But I will wait until my Prince Charming comes. You will wait too. And it won't be long before you find your Princess:)

keep a journal, Ask yourself the research questions = who, what, when, where, why, and how this helps you see what because its painful that your mind (as everyone's does) changes the subject...it will help you get your thoughts from A to Z.

It speeds the process to the other side, and help you see that as bad as things are, they usually are not as bad as you think.

You can also learn how to see and accept what actually IS and adjust to the facts of life.

Once you see for yourself what truths are for you, you can move forward in choosing IF single life is what you really want or if you cal see the signs to tell things about women.

Personally I'm single at nearly 60 because I love my life, I;m not lonely bored at times yes but not lonely I'm not sure I even understand what loneliness actually is. For me its a choice...you need to get to the place where it is a choice it doesn't sound like it is for you yet.

Oh and I date but not in a convalescent home so not ready to settle or settle down yet.

I'm in the same place, my wife left me a few years ago and I just never find myself interested in anyone else.

You will find someone sooner or later, it may be later but be patient with it :) I'm sure your not jaded !