Before anyone asks, i'm not using Autism as an insult (because it really isn't.)

My brother, ill call him Derek, older, and has high functioning Autism.

I'm 14, and i have ADHD

My brother being favorite has been happening for a really long time and their only excuse is "We don't love him more than you, get over it."

examples-

I have severe ADHD, its really hard for me to focus, and i'm not allowed to take any type of medication for it, and i just get called lazy.

My brother has medication for almost everything.

My punishments can go severe when he never gets punished for A-N-Y-T-H-I-N-G.

I had to beg to see a therapist at one point because it was getting really bad, and they did it for him happily.

My self harm seems to be the talk for all of them.

for family to talk about them. They even go as far as grabbing and looking at them, stroking them weirdly.

My problems are always minimized, regardless. I was so sick i couldn't stand up. at all. I almost had to go to the ER from non stop throwing up stomach acid, but they decided not to because hospital bills are too expensive.My brother hurt ankle and they ran to the doctors stressed about it, and they just said he needed to stay off it.

my brother can just cough and ask if he needs a Motrin and tells him to take a few, while i have to beg for anything to help me and they started hiding medicine as if i'm taking it in secret everyday.

I know its allot but, does anyone have at least a little advice for me???

Any help??