My family is close...problem is, my sister is very selfish and engaged to be married. I used to call her every day to see how things were going. When she came to see me, she told me I was hiding things and that, if I didn't have a guy to talk about, we had nothing more to say to each other. She can't ever say she's sorry, and doesn't think our conversation is worth while unless I'm dating a guy. I am finally back in college (and trust me, this is a real accomplishment for myself)...She really insulted me the last time she visited, so I asked her to leave. Now, after 3 weeks of silence she calls (not to apologize...just to talk). I hate the fact that I am SO angry, but this has happened before and I always called within two days (regardless of whether I was right or not). She waited 3 weeks....her response was, "'I'm sorry, but I meant everything I said...". Am I right not taking it anymore??
Update:She told me not being married by the time I was 23 was an insult to the family name...
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Yes you are right. Men doesn't define a women.
You are in college, that in itself is something to be proud about. Your sister is who she is, but that doesn't give her the right to be rude, continue to let her know how you feel, and if she continues then distance yourself from her, until she start respecting you with or without a guy.
Ignore her stupidity insults. No one has to married as soon as
your 23 years old. What the **** is she talking about. If she
chooses to get married at a early age then be it. But as for you
go for the Career. Your on the right track, get educated and a
good career, before you decide to get a boy-Friend. There is no
law saying you should get married before you get educated.
Besides even if you did have a boy-Friend you will be too busy
studying. But that doesn't mean either that you can't have one
either. As for her not apologizing just ignore it as well, just as
long as you know what is right for you. So just keep doing
what you know best, no one should tell you different. Besides
why is she so concerned about you and your relationships?
Walk away be the better person, just take a chill pill and don't
let anyone put you down.
Tori,
Tell you sister when "She Calls You" .... the lovely conversations she has with you are anything but, and your cutting out the extra fertilizer from your diet .... please spread her thoughts else where!
Or words to that affect ... be sure to tell her if she can't be alittle warm & fuzzy not to waist your time!
In short be strong and stand up for your self.
Cudos on the education !!
sounds like she desires a fact verify. If she began getting sessions she should not be somewhat annoyed like that. perchance she's having a hard time in college or does not get alongside alright with friends.
yes you are my oldest sister treats me the same way i just couln't take it no more so i changed my # and she doen't have it and my mom will not give it to her cause my mom feels she is wrong too. i also changed my address and didn't tell her that either it has been almost 2 years that i haven't talked to her, i miss her but why talk to her so she can treat me like ****? so yes you are right
try writing her a letter (not an email) and explain all of what ur feeling and ask her to explain y she's doing this to u. once she has to face her problem it will be easier for both of u to get over it :)
You are BLOOD sisters right?
Your story does not seem as bad to NOT talk to your sister. Siblings are always judgmental (they are just like the majority of the people who surround us)...IGNORE IT!
God forbid...One of you could die tonight...then what?
Good luck :)
she said sorry well in a mean way
but im sorry to say that i dont really get wats the question
ill be back if u put the question on ur details :)
wow wut a bad insult 4 the family name!!!
thats rude 2 me very rude!
She loves you and she has no other good friend than you. Slowly bring her out of topic. Best is to take her to bowling centre.
its just silly for stop talking because of some stupid reason.