* skip to the bottom to read the main questions but i appreciate anyone who will read my story & can maybe tell me if anything like this has happened to them, & if so what happened & what's to be expected.
i'm 19 weeks pregnant & a few nights ago my boyfriend & i were having sex. during this, we realized i had started bleeding very badly. i went to the emergency room, & they did an ultrasound, checked the heartbeat, & tested my hCG levels. during a pelvic exam, they told me the most of the blood had been coming from the uterus, but the oz had closed back up, so the bleeding had started to slow down. they said my baby was fine right now, but they couldn't be sure what was going to happen in the next 20 weeks.
that night after arriving home from the hospital, the right side of my back began to have this sharp constant pain. it's been three days & the pain hasn't let up.
yesterday i went to the obgyn. they checked the heartbeat & did another pelvic exam. he said the cervix was still a little raw but the bleeding had stopped. i asked about the pain i was feeling in my back, also a little in my side. he told me i was feeling the pain directly in my ribs & it was normal because i'm pregnant. he said everything was fine & that i just need to obstain from having sex.
* although the doctors have told me everything's okay right now, i was still wondering
1) what are the chances of having a threatened miscarriage & still giving birth to a healthy baby?
2) what is the process of miscarrying past 19 weeks & when will you be aware that you are for sure miscarrying?
& if you read the story,
3) when can i expect this pain to subside & go back to having a normal pregnancy?
thank you to anyone who can help inform me more about my situation or at least ease my mind a little.
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1. STOP stressing so much, you are NOT helping yourself.......stress is one of the biggest risk factors. Yes, I do know how hard that is, I lost a son at 21 weeks, suffered 4 early term miscarriages and my daughter was born healthy at 32 weeks.....I know problem pregnancies extremely well......as for giving birth to a healthy baby, if bubs is healthy now and you can keep them where they belong for another 7 or 8 weeks, your chances of success are excellent.
2. If you do begin to lose this pregnancy, you will go into labor. Sorry, but at 19 + weeks, the process is the same as giving birth full term.
3. You may not go back to having a "normal" pregnancy. The key now is to relax as much as possible, limit your activity, ABSOLUTELY NO SEX OR ORGASM until the end of the pregnancy. Do NOT play with your breasts at all, I know its tempting when your colostrum comes in to express a little, but it can kick you into labor. If you suspect in the slightest that things are getting worse, go in to your hospital.....thats really important. There are lots of things they can do to try to help keep bubs in there and if it does look like you are going to deliver early, but after 24 weeks, it is essential that you have steroids to help mature the baby's lungs.
As long as your cervical os is closed and the bleeding has stopped, youre in good shape. Put your feet up as much as possible, stay in bed if you can. Move around only to go to the bathroom, shower or kitchen if you want food. Find ways to keep yourself calm. Bear in mind that at the moment both you and bubs are doing ok. Get yourself to 23-24 weeks, then they can start speeding up the maturity of the baby's lungs.
Good luck honey, I will be keeping you and your little one in my thoughts.
Its normal to bleed after sex especially if its rough i would try not to worry about a mc. And listen to whatever ur doc says.