My little sister is 25 years old. She is a bartender at two different bars. Her life is spiraling downward and fast. She is drinking to the point of blacking out about 2 to 4 times a week. This has been going on for at least 4 years. She was always very responisble finacially and with her body. Now she spends 100's of dollars drinking every week, spends $200 on 1 pair of jeans and she cant make her house payment. Worst of all she is trying to get pregnate with this guy she in infatuated with who drinks just as much if not more then her. She saids she thinks it will force her to settle down. No one can talk to her about anything, she freaks out if anyone even asks her not to swear around the kids (my kids and little cousins). I dont know what to do. I love her but I cant talk to her because she flips out, this christmas she said she dosent even want to be around the family anymore. What should we do to help her???
Update:I odviously cant go into alot of detail about her because it would take all day, but what I've written only skims the top of what is going on .
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You can't do anything to help her, but love her. What you can do, and I highly recommend it, is find yourself an Al-Anon program. It is for families of alcoholics to come together to support each other and learn how to cope with this dreadful disease.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
hey shell i am here for you as well trust me i am a recovering alcoholic i have been sober now for 25 years and still go to my meetings and church don't get yourself upset and stress out you have help many get through with my family and don't realize it all you have to do when it gets that bad is just say sis when you are ready to get help let me know find the nearest program and be there try to find a AAA meeting and ask if someone could talk with her if she allows it to happen if not find the people and give her the number and say i will always love you i want you to get some help but don't give up alcoholic is a sickness from escaping reality it will be all right stay in touch because that's something serious! I myself is a sponsor of Alohcol and drugs i have 26 people who i speak with everyday! don't forget god is in the midst!
Sounds like it's time for a family intervention. She really needs help now, before she gets cirrhosis of the liver or something equally dangerous. Or pregnant....God help her baby if she does! I hope you guys can find something to do to help her. I'm sorry I am not much help - I have no real experience with alcoholics.
My heart goes out to you girl. What a good and loving sister you are. I would suggest that you just be there for her and be honest with her and be there when things get bad, because they will. She is going to hit rock bottom and she is going to need your support. I would look on line for help with alcoholism. Just a thought.
I wish I could help more. Take care girl.
Get her help before it gets worse. Not only is this financially and problem, but it will surely be a health issue sooner or later.
Good luck.
Maybe she hasnt hit rock bottom yet and she needs to learn from her mistakes before she gets any better.
when you find out what to do....tell Britney.