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Yes....but I am, what I am, and sadly I don't feel any different Health Wise, 40 pounds lighter than I did before...I am still in 24 hour pain, and this disease will never go away, skinny or fat. My husband accepts me for who I am...and never comments on my weight....15 years and still going strong...

Hi Lily,

yes, I've had weight/ confidence issues all my life, coming from a family who teased me because I was a bit plump, then spent some time as a teenage wallflower , not being the ' in' shape of the era.

The Pill and other hormonal issues combined with various faddy diets meant that I had years of yo- yo - ing weight

Stress, family problems and HRT drove my weight down so far that some friends thought I had something ' terminal' !

Now, ten years down the line, it's right up again, due to the less active lifestyle, lunches out with friends and more time at home ( in the kitchen , ha ha )

What i'm saying is, my erratic weight pattern is what you'd expect from an unpredictable person like me !

I think that the main reason that ladies have size/weight issues is because many men have 'ideal' sized ladies in mind. That is sad. Men 'let themselves go' earlier and more often than ladies do and I think that an overweight, unkempt man who has an ideal sized lady in mind also has an infernal cheek and deserves a lonely old age.

Ladies have always been prepared, and expected, to take care of themselves and look their best and when they don't it is usually because they simply cannot do so any more. To know that they are no longer the ideal in the eye of the male of the species is distressing to many. I know so many hugely overweight and scruffy men who still think that they have the right to have a young pretty girl on their arm and who have ditched their faithful wives in favour of the younger model. They are too dim to realise that the attraction - for the girl - is their wallet.

I didn't until I developed back problems and had to take meds that caused weight gain. Now I am getting spinal steroid injections which can also cause weight gain, but they seem to be helping , so I am tapering down on the meds. With PT and home exercise I hope to lose 15 lbs before the holidays, then rejoin the health club I used to attend. My neighbor and I used to walk for an hr. almost every evening, sometimes even in the dead of winter, but the last 2 summers and last winter made it almost impossible but we just started our routine again; we are hoping for a beautiful Fall.

I BETTER have only one size lady in mind and I guess I'll keep after 37 years. She is pretty small but last time I made her mad, I found out she is not a frail as she looks.

My wife usually isn't satisfied with her appearance even though I tell her she looks fine. Guess she just learned to NEVER believe me about anything.

Now, myself on the other hand, have plenty of appearance issues, but I don't think this bothers guys as much anyway.( Well , she did get me to quit wearing velcro-closure shoes, but hasn't gotten all my ratty old favorite T-shirts thrown away yet since I hide them pretty well.)

"Size" is just a number. I'm quite concerned with fitness. My Ex wife got fat. I can't be civil to fat people even today, 30 years later. As we age the metabolism seems to slow. It requires more effort to do the exercise, and we have to eat less all the time.

Excess weight will make you feel bad!! Both physically and mentally. Quit making excuses, and start working on a lifestyle that you can continue. Work more, eat less. It's worth it.

I've lost 60 lbs. in the past 2 years from 182 down to 122 and not on purpose. Being the full time caregiver for my husband who had a total hip replacement and also has dementia has taken it's toll on me and my health.

Someone said to me, "I bet you feel better losing that much weight". NO, I DON'T. I felt my best at around 155 to 160 which isn't bad for a 5'10" tall woman of my age. It's more pleasant hugging someone with a "full body" instead of a bag of bones that you're afraid you might break.

"Women of maturity with their fine lines, graying hair and full bodies....They make my mouth water." What I remember of a quote from Warren Oates to his wife who was having a mid life crisis. HE made MY mouth water when he said that!

Ive gradually put on weight over the years and then xmas I saw a photo of myself and decided enough was enough. Since then Ive lost 2 1/2 stone so Im pretty smug!!!

Im going for just a little bit more and then I'll be unbearable to live with!!

For most of my adult life I've been about half a stone over the accepted norm. Exceptions being pregnancies and an adverse reaction to prescription drugs..

Of course my weight fluctuates a little, usually up a few pounds in winter and down again in spring.

I am happy with my body from the neck up and from the knees down. Unfortunately, it's the large bit in the middle I would like to get rid of.

I would love to walk into The Body Shop and ask them for a size 14 please - notice I don't want to be too thin. A size 14 and I would be over the moon. I'm not telling you what size I am ha ha.

I've had weight issues all my life...but just the opposite from those I'm seeing here. I'm quite tall for a female (5'9") and I've always been underweight. I assure you...that isn't always a positive thing. People seem to think it's okay to vocalize 'wise cracks' when you're thin because they think you WANT to be that way. I actually had a 'friend' tell me I looked like a praying mantis..and thought I'd see humor in it!