I think resentment is a negative feeling resulting from the stress load you carry when you recognize the blatant unfairness of a situation you are trapped in. The stress can be self-imposed. If you can persuade yourself that you can change the situation or it can be endured because there are also positve aspects to it, or something precious can be gained, then the resentment can dissolve.
I resent cleaning out the garage because I think it is my husband's job. I resent having to drop whatever I am doing to try to help my impatient husband with something that is annoying him, because he is really unreliable when it comes to helping me. I resent having to pay more than $2500 a month for medical insurance for 3 people, because I wouldn't say that the medical care we are getting or can get is necessarily worth it.
I define resentment like a ton of bricks that pulls you down and down all the time.
I read somewhere that is like "drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die".
In my teens I was very resentful towards my mother, but then I realized that she was just a human being that made very bad decisions in her life, and I try to live my life different from her.
So in her own way she teach me a lesson and for that I am grateful.
Resentment is a look to the other that cannot express the gazer's own suffering due to the fact the the gazer is entangled in a power struggle that requires he or she suffer silently.
Resentment doesn't have so much to do with doing something, but to the fact that one is subordinated to the other, and is forced to do something for the other, or for THEM.
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Paying high prices for groceries, gas, clothes, etc
Picking up litter because people are so thoughtless and self-absorbed that they just throw garbage wherever they feel like it
Having to smile and be nice to people who don't reciprocate
I think resentment is a negative feeling resulting from the stress load you carry when you recognize the blatant unfairness of a situation you are trapped in. The stress can be self-imposed. If you can persuade yourself that you can change the situation or it can be endured because there are also positve aspects to it, or something precious can be gained, then the resentment can dissolve.
I resent cleaning out the garage because I think it is my husband's job. I resent having to drop whatever I am doing to try to help my impatient husband with something that is annoying him, because he is really unreliable when it comes to helping me. I resent having to pay more than $2500 a month for medical insurance for 3 people, because I wouldn't say that the medical care we are getting or can get is necessarily worth it.
I define resentment like a ton of bricks that pulls you down and down all the time.
I read somewhere that is like "drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die".
In my teens I was very resentful towards my mother, but then I realized that she was just a human being that made very bad decisions in her life, and I try to live my life different from her.
So in her own way she teach me a lesson and for that I am grateful.
Hope it helps,
Guasabara
Resentment is a look to the other that cannot express the gazer's own suffering due to the fact the the gazer is entangled in a power struggle that requires he or she suffer silently.
Resentment doesn't have so much to do with doing something, but to the fact that one is subordinated to the other, and is forced to do something for the other, or for THEM.
THEY just need so much, don't they?
refeel
it's a rigid belief that the past ought to be different....and a demand that it (the past) be so ....right now !
it's a re-experiencing of a past outrage