So he called me at like 3am last night and told me she had a stroke. He's at Norwich for university and his grandma lives in London. So he told me he was going to go back to London which I thought was a bad idea at that late at night or early morning whatever. But before he had a chance to leave his mum called him and told him his grandmother had died. He called me this morning and told me he spent all night crying, we talked for like 5 minutes then he told me he didn't wanna talk and hung up. I've sent him a few texts since then but he hasn't replied, I don't know what to do for him, should I just leave him for now? But him and his grandma were really close and I'm scared he might do something stupid. I can't be there for him because there's no way I can actually get to him so I can't physically be there for him. I'm so worried about him. What should I do?Update:Yeah when he was telling me he was going to go to her he told me if she died and he didn't even get too see her he would feel terrible, so I can't imagine how terrible he actually feels right now :/. Created by Jasmine. family-relationships-en - family-en

My boyfriends grandmother died last night?

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My boyfriends grandmother died last night?

So he called me at like 3am last night and told me she had a stroke. He's at Norwich for university and his grandma lives in London. So he told me he was going to go back to London which I thought was a bad idea at that late at night or early morning whatever. But before he had a chance to leave his mum called him and told him his grandmother had died. He called me this morning and told me he spent all night crying, we talked for like 5 minutes then he told me he didn't wanna talk and hung up. I've sent him a few texts since then but he hasn't replied, I don't know what to do for him, should I just leave him for now? But him and his grandma were really close and I'm scared he might do something stupid. I can't be there for him because there's no way I can actually get to him so I can't physically be there for him. I'm so worried about him. What should I do?

Update:

Yeah when he was telling me he was going to go to her he told me if she died and he didn't even get too see her he would feel terrible, so I can't imagine how terrible he actually feels right now :/

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You told him it was a bad idea to go to his Grandmother? Who do you think you are? If he felt he needed to go - you should have been a lot more supportive and asked him if there was anything you could do to help.

I wouldn't expect he would immediately respond to texts. He is probably busy with calling family and helping with arrangements and doing things that needs to be done. And I understand him not wanting to talk. Talking is difficult when it's so new. He needs to sort things out.

Use the phone. And not for texts. Have a short conversation. Let him know you can't physically be with him but you are in thoughts and prayers at this very difficult time for him. Let him know that you are available to talk any time he needs/wants.

You will need to let him grieve for his beloved grandmother. If he hasn't seen her in awhile - he is going to feel terrible and guilty. That's natural. It will pass but will take time. He won't do anything stupid.

I have a strong bond with my adult grandson. We have since he was a baby. I can only imagine what he will go through when it's my time.

Shadow

all people grieve in their own way. He obviously needs some alone time. you ahve already made the call, so let him know via text that you will be there for him when he needs and is ready to talk (or text). let him know that if you could you would be there for him physically, but you both know that is currently impossible. Let him know that you are concerned and will check on him periodically (a call or text once every 6- 8 hours should do. you don't want to be a nag, but you do want to let him know you're there to be supportive)

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Anonymous

I think he may just need time to think about things at this time, it sounds like he was really close to his grandmother and not being there when she died could have really upset him, i think you should just text him saying "if you need me im here for you" and wait for him to contact you. It's very sad to lose someone your very close to so just give him a little time...: ).