I will be attending a kickback tonight. All of us are of drinking age but the person hosting the party has an underage friend staying with them for the holidays. She just turned 17. Apparently, according to my boyfriend and his friend who is hosting this, she is "really hot" and has that "hot girl personality" and is also foreign so "the accent makes it better."

When i was with the two of them, the first thing the host wanted to talk about was how hot this girl is and how he feels weird being around her since shes only 17. they walked away to talk about her some more. idk what exactly might have been said.

however, when i talked to my bf, i told him "oh, dont worry babe. i know that you are too much of an upstanding individual to ever consider hitting on/making inappropriate comments to/flirting with/or talking about inappropriate things with a young, underage girl. you have too much respect for yourself, being X years her senior and me, your girlfriend, to ever want to pay too much attention to some "hot" high school girl who is seventeen. seventeen. was sixteen last week. you are too much of a good guy."

We trust each other so i know he would never try to do anything with her at this party, but i have to say the whole situation makes me uncomfortable, for everyone involved. Ive been to parties where high schoolers are also among the guests and they always make things uncomfortable. i do not know how to treat them...

and now i am going to a party where there will be a high school girl who my bf openly agreed was good looking. we will be drinking obviously. there will be other *single* guys there as well who i know will want to hit on her.

i guess my question is how do i "be cool" and let loose tonight when i am going to be getting drunk with an underage kid that all the men around me will be oogling over? I am not bad looking myself but my problem is that i am not super outgoing where as this girl has the "hot girl personalty" they said where she just demands attention.

i am scared because not only am i worried about potentially having my drunk boyfriend end up paying more attention to a high school girl than me tonight, but what if some of the other guys start to get weird? like what am i supposed to do if one of the guys makes a pass at her after we are all drunk? it is just going to be a small kick back and while there will be one other girl there (shes weird though and only coming bc shes dating of our friends) i will be the oldest female there and the only girl old enough to legally drink. I not only feel a sense of worry about having to watch these guys hit on her but also a feeling of obligation to look out for another girl.

and then theres the worry in the back of my brain that perhaps this hot foreign underage girl will end up being cooler and more interesting than me and be able to take care of herself among these guys which leaves me looking like a fool for even caring.

i just want to know how to approach this situation tonight so that it all goes smoothly.

-deraged girl, which makes me want to protect her, but now she is a hurdle.