I'm in 7th grade,5ft 8in tall,and about 120 lbs.the reason I say this is because I can't fight and I'm always getting teased because I cant.all my friends are horrible friends,they pick on me and call me names and I feel awful. I feel like no one cares about me in school. My cousin has such great friends but I have such horrible ones. I already have mant perminate mental scars because of being picked on so much. My cousin who has good friends goes to a compleatly different school so I can't hang out with them. My "friends" have already given up on me getting a good job and having a succesful life because they think I'm useless. And my friend thinks he's a real man but yet he's racist and cheaks out girls like 24/7. I, on the other hand never brag,don't cheak out girls,and have no problem with gays and black people.if I had a gf(which I've never had one)I would tell her she's pretty instead of saying she's hot,and hold her hand,not slap her butt. What should I do about all this?
Update:@kevin w/ blue explanation point I don't mean to be mean but f*** you I have damn mental scars that are PERMINATE they don't go away............I bet your a bully in school just like the rest of the peice of S*** kids in my school. So shut the hell up. Saying me someone who can't fight DESERVES this man,your just a horrible person.
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Bullies will always find something that they can pick on someone for. If its not how tall you are, its your weight or your hair colour, or you eye colour, or if you have spots, the colour of your skin, your school uniform, the clothes you wear, the music you listen to, what you watch on television, the bag you carry, your sexuality, anything! Because they are low life bullies who can only get a kick in life by hurting others to stop whatever pain they are going through.
I understand what you are going through, I was bullied my whole school life and got depressed and even hospitalised. I am sorry you have to go through it too, its awful and no one should ever have to get bullied for any stupid reason the bully gives. Just always remember that they are the ones who have a deep dark secret that is causing them pain and the only way to make them feel a tiny bit better is to throw a stupid word at someone else. They will grow up to be nothing. Just ignore them, I know its easier said than done but seriously it will kill them if you ignore them and not show they are getting to you.
You can also go to a teacher and tell them. Maybe you could talk to a school counsellor to talk all your feelings and thoughts out in confidence? Again, I am sorry you go through this. Stay strong xx
time to find some new friends dude, they don't respect you. And if you did what was required to get that respect, you would not like yourself very much. Do something a bit different and find friends in different places where your personality actually suits the group. I know it's hard to change friends in school but what difference does it make how they would react when they already treat you poorly... The other option is take up boxing lessons, seriously. Learn to fight and if one of them disrespects you, put them in their place. They'll be surprised and will probably like you a bit less, but they will respect you.
Just remember, school is only short term, and life is forever. If you change to suit them, you could spend the rest of your life unhappy. If you stick to your guns and use the painful energy to prove them wrong, do it at all costs and become far more successful than them. That's what I'm doing now so I can turn up to my 20th reunion and show them I was onto something.
Good luck man.
Sounds like you need to walk through the wall of fear and self pity that you have built for yourself. Pop someone in the nose and keep swinging. If you get your *** kicked your even cause your getting your *** kicked now. Nothing to lose. Do this once and you will probably see people give you some respect. Kevin is right. No fear! Go nuts once! If this does not work go to the higher authorities and go verbal nuts on them about bullying. You have a right to defend yourself but it is up to you to do the defending. You are living miserable anyway and you have nothing to lose.
These people aren't your friends, you need new friends socialise with new people join an after school club or any school club you will meet new people who are in the same school as you :)
And as for the fighting bit, you don't need to fight if you want to bulk up or learn how to fight professionally join an amateur boxing club :)
Ignore the haters, just smile because people hate when others are happy
Good luck
Chloe
You my friend have great qualities. I can tell your a good person just from the hot/pretty, and hand-holding/butt slaping. You will meet a girl that is deserving of you, and is a great women. Unlike all the Wh*res you know now.
Good luck. And keep your head high.
its sounds like you're smart and sensitive. Unfortunately that means life is going to suck for a while. Most of the other kids are only one step above animals. They might get to where you're at by their late 20s if at all.
Stick up for yourself. The smarter you are the harder it is to be bold. The idiots don't even think about the repercussions of their actions. you've got to weigh the consequences and still 'man up'
remember that you're better than them no matter what they think
bad friends are worse than enemies
things will be way more awesome for you than for them starting around college
I'm sorry to hear that. Your in 7th grade I know it all seems so big and important but these friends you have are losers and probaly won't make it out of high school. You on the other hand have so much to offer to the world. Middle school and high school sucks the friends you make won't matter in about 5 years I know it sounds far but you will make it we all have been there. Keep your head up sweetie. :)
I went through EXACTLY the same thing. Don't fret over it. It won't last forever. Once those idiots who are bullying you have matured, some of them will come running back to you trying to be your friend, all because they will have learned that their bad behavior in junior high school doesn't sit well with society at large.
Jake, I am so sorry this is happening to you. First of all, I wonder why they want you to fight so bad? Maybe you intimidate them? Regardless, I have never been in a single fight, but I am still very successful in life. I just started a site called www.HearTheTears.org . I would LOVE for you to come over and be a voice on this site. Post in our forums. I need people like YOU who ARE worth more then you and others are seeing right now. We need to speak up, and its my mission to teach people like you, how to handle these issues, yourself, and your bullies. We never give up on anyone. I have a whole community of friends WAITING to help people in your situation and be there for you. So please, go post in our forums. It cant hurt :) www.facebook.com/HearTheTears
Well kid, your life sucks now, probably by no fault of your own. But you seem smart. Just stick it out. Adulthood will be better. Don't do anything drastic, just know deep down that none of the crap you're going through now will matter in the slightest when you're 25.