I know I'm only seventeen and I'm just a stupid kid anyways, but why can't my parents just listen to me and actually seem like they understand what I am going through. My mom has now gotten cancer for the third time in her life. I know its hard for everyone to see her like this, but I need some reassurance from the adults around me. (I don't want to sound selfish at all) I just want someone to come out and say, are you okay? How are you? This is kind of my mom here....yeah she's your daughter (to my grandmother) and yeah when she dies you will miss her, but she's my mom.... It's like no one understands that. I could be screaming it at the top of my lungs in the middle of the room, saying it over and over again, and no one would care. I know this might sound selfish, but I could really use some POSITIVE words. I don't know if I can handle anything that's negative right now.
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First of all your not a stupid kid and they do care. When something horrible like cancer happens to the family it effects everyone. Of course it's easy for you to slip through the net because everyone is worried about your mum and wants her to be able to get better and live her life. I don't think your selfish in fact I think it's completely normal to feel how you are and I think you'll find a lot of people within a family with a member struck with cancer will feel that way in some form. I think it's best finding a family member that you are close to or feel that you can speak openly and trust and explain how you feel, you do want to upset anyone of give of a bad impression but you need someone there for you, for you to be able to blow a steam and come to terms with your mums condition. Because in all honestly I don't think emotionally you have came to terms with your mums illness and you are upset by it and need someone to speak to about it. And maybe even speak to your mum about it, that you love her and you want her to get better it effects you in so many ways and your wanting to speak to her about it and if your not completely comfortable speaking to your mum face to face, take some time to write a letter exploring your feelings and worry, don't let this come between you are your mum because this is time were she need you to most. What ever you do, do not convince yourself that you are selfish or a bad person or what ever, it is completely normal to be over whelmed and want to express the way you feel, take time to explore how you feel and you'll find the right words. Good luck m'dear
I'm sorry you feel that way but idk what to tell you, it's just that they have a lot of stress because if your mother and they don't pay attention to others around them their giving all their attention to your mother. But c'mon your 17 almost an adult, I don't think you need reassurance.
Hope I helped :)