My fiancee and I are planning our bachelor and bachelorette parties. I already told my groomsmen that I wanted to go paintballing and he agreed since we haven't gone in years. My fiancee said she was just going to have friends over for some drinks and homemade spa night. I overheard the MOH saying that she was getting a stripper for the party (even though we both agreed not to). I mentioned this to her and she said that she told the MOH no strippers and would say no if one showed up. I am not sure how realistic it is for the bride to be to just bail on her own bachelorette party esp once she has been drinking. I trust my fiancee, but I DONT trust her friends at all! They have always been wild, and try to get her to do wild things and sometimes she does. I have heard about what happens with male strippers from female friends that have gone. That the guy puts whipcream on his cock and has her lick it off and ****. I dont want that! She may think (while drunk) it is no big deal, but what should I do?
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Notice the women and how they answer this? It's cool because its the bride and her party that is going to get a stripper....now if it were a groom and this was a women asking this question the woman would all be up in arms about it. My only thought is that she and you already discussed it but since it seems inevitable perhaps you should just both agree to each having strippers at least that way there is no resentment later on between either of you.
Are you sure you trust your fiancee? Really? Because what you're writing makes it sound like you think she's an alcoholic who doesn't know what it means to be a one-man woman.
If your fiancee isn't going to lick whipped cream off a guy that isn't you, you should trust that she won't do it. If your fiancee isn't going to get trashed and think "it's okay if this isn't my hubby-to-be", you should trust that she won't do it. Sorry, but no amount of peer pressure would EVER make me think it was okay to do that when I'm in a committed relationship -- and I know my limits.
I don't think it's your place to talk to the MOH, but perhaps you could reiterate to your fiancee that you both agreed to have no strippers and you hope she will do the right thing and turn him away if he does indeed show up at the door.
You say you and your fiancee have an agreement that neither of you will do this, and that she's also said she'd say no if a stripper showed up, correct? So where's all this worry about sucking whipped cream coming from?
If you trust your fiancee like you say you do, then back off. This is between her and her MOH.
If you don't trust her, then there's another bigger problem.
Talk to the MOH. or have a joint party! thats what me and my husband did!....we just got everyone together for a night of music, bbq, drinks, and a firepit!! =)
seriously just let her do what she wants to do its her last night as a unmarried woman if she wants to go wild she can go wild its her hen night after all. i just suggest both go out and get very very drunk and just have a good time.