OK before I get a bunch of negative comments - please just hear me out. I will love my baby no matter what and I will love this baby as much as I love my first whether it's a boy or a girl!... So I'm in my 13th week with my second baby and yesterday I begged my ultrasound tech to just take a guess, she was unsure but I really just wanted something out of her and she thought it might look like a girl because she didn't see a penis (she also said I might be too early to see it). Now I just NEVER pictured myself having a girl. I have 5 brothers no sisters, and I also have a 1 year old son. I just always thought I was going to have a bunch of little boys. I was looking forward to giving my son a little brother to be like his best friend, and I'm so into sports and everything and I can't wait until my son is old enough to get involved with sports I just don't know what I'm going to do with a girl. I'm not so much disappointed if it IS a girl, I'm just really scared. I hate all the pink stuff and I am girly, personally, I guess.. I wear makeup and love shoes lol.. but I'm totally into sports and football (I'm in the US) and hockey and I just feel like I'm going to make her a tomboy, which there's nothing wrong with but... I dont know :( I guess I just need ways to get excited if it is a girl... has anyone else felt this way... please answer nicely I'm going to love my baby if it's a girl that's not even an issue, I know there is a chance I'm going to have a girl but I just never thought I would. Any advice would be great thank you & congrats to all the pregnant mommies :)
Also, I can't talk to my husband about this because he wants me to keep the gender a secret from him when I find out for sure!
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I totally understand where you are coming from. Its that question "So...do you want a boy or a girl?" How can you possible answer that without seeming selfish. When we went in to listen to the heartbeat I was totally shocked they said by the way the heart is beating fast and sounding like a train it sounds like its a girl. I started to cry! when the dr. left the room my husband knew it wasen't a good cry lol he could tell exactly what I was thinking. I couldn't help but feel scared and totally suprised. I have grew up with boys running around the house and nephews and baby boy cousins. I am a girl but I had no clue what in the world to do with one. lol. I guess everyone kinda has set in their mind what they want and usually secretly hope for one or the other. I would just wait till you know for sure what you are having. I am 33 wks pregnant and IT's A Boy! lol I kept worrying about it thinking I was having a girl and It wasen't even accurate untill we saw the little ultrasound with the arrows lol. If you have a girl you will love her so much and you wont know what you would do without her. She will probably end up being just like you...girly and loving shoes and being sporty at the same time. Give it time and thank god for the little blessing he already knows whats in your future!
Good luck and Congrats!
keep me updated....I wanna know if its a boy or girl :)
Hope I helped!
I felt the same way before I got pregnant. I really wanted a boy. I am not girly either. I don't hardely wear makeup and my #1 shoes are my flip flops : ) I am not really into sports but I would prefer a boy because I guess I can relate more to them. I know more about cars then my hubby : ) Anyway, once I found out I was pregnant I had a strong feeling like it was a girl and at first I was disapointed but I quickly got over that. Either way I am going to be the happiest mom in the world. (I'm only 10 weeks so I have another 10 to go) I got to thinking about playing with Barbies and doing her cute little hair (even though I'm not very good at it.) My mom was never girly either and she had 3 girls and I love her to death. I wouldn't care if my mom was girly or liked sports. Your baby will love you no matter what your personality is like. I am just hoping for a healthy baby right now : ) I am now excited no matter what. Good luck and congrats!!!
I'm the opposite of you - terrified that I'm going to have a boy! Of course, I'll love it whatever it is, but I'd prefer to have a girl because I personally find them much easier to deal with and really enjoy all the girly stuff while the gross boy stuff is a huge turn-off for me. I don't think what we're feeling is particularly unusual - everyone finds something to stress about during their pregnancy, this just happens to be our neuroses! I've been calming myself down by being logical - if it is a boy it's not like there's anything I can do to change it - and maybe he'll like musicals and dancing and literature. If I have a girl she might be a tomboy and want to do boy stuff instead of singing lessons. It's so easy to get bogged down in the stereotypical gender roles that we forget that their personalities may or may not conform to what we think of as 'boy' and 'girl'.
I know it's not a huge help - but hopefully you feel better knowing you're not the only one, and certainly not a bad person for leaning more towards one sex than another.
I was hoping for a boy too, b/c I hate all the prissy pink princess crap. I grew up with and get along better with boys, but lo and behold, I'm having a girl! Of course I will love my baby regardless, as you will too. She'll be her own person, and may or may not be into girly girl stuff or sports, I think it's still going to be an exciting journey. You will watch her grow and develop, and become whoever she will be! It's nice that she'll have a big brother to look out for her as she grows up, I know I really loved my big brother and pretty much idolized him as we were growing up. Boy or girl, you've got a new family member on the way, and it's going to be great! Congrats and take care.
Well im a mother to a beautiful 3 1/2 yr old Girl.
And i can tell you it's the most special bond you could imagine, she is a minny me, her daddy and her are so close as well, she loves putting make up on me and dressing up, but she also loves kicking a ball around and playing rough and tumble.
If they didn't see a penis by 13 weeks the chances are it is a girl, iv seen many scans where the penis is fully visible by 13 weeks
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Just be thankful God has given you an amazing gift boy or girl.
Ive heard that from a couple moms that I know that have 2 or 3 boys and it was their last pregnancy and they found it was another boy. they cried for days... but still love that little boy just like all the others. when that baby is born it wont matter what flavor it is.... lol.
You dont need to go over board on pink frillys just because you have a girl. Just get a few little dresses for special occasions. and call it good. I think you will have fun with it. Have a daughter to do things with and not be outnumbered in your home!
good luck.
I have a very good friend going through the same situation. She found out she was having a boy, which was a bit shocking and I think a little disappointing to her. Your love of sports can be passed on to a girl just as easily as it is to a boy. And your son might love having a sister more than he would having a brother. I think you should just try to relax, stop stressing yourself out. Because the bottom line is you are going to love your child completely, no matter its gender. Try to stop worrying!
Well a girl will open you to a whole new world of sports. I'm not talking about cheerleading either. Field hockey, gymnastics, girl's lacrosse, softball, I guess dance, ect. Also who knows; your kids might be really close, plus if he's old enough there might be an age gap, that he wouldn't even hang out with the sibling regardless of gender (believe me, my closest in age sibling is 6 years older.) God luck and who knows; might be a boy.
At 13 weeks, there's only a 75% chance that they're right with gender predictions, and sometimes little girls actually turn out to be boys. Don't start getting yourself into a huff yet, it's still very possible you could get your second little boy.
Hey, maybe she will take after you and have a similar personality to you. Plus think about when she's an adult, you two will probably be very close in a mother and grown-up daughter way.
Show her all the sports and other things you like, and I bet she will like them too.
Good luck.