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First, Toy preference is Not A Sign Of Gender Confusion. All kids like toys that provide them enjoyment. Adulthave the Problem. These over paid and mentally Stupid professionals cannot realize that we are born individuals with our own personal likes and dislikes from color, clothes, and Toys. I had a baby doll until the age of almost six. I had five GI Joe dolls from six years old. My other toys included two Tonka toys and some cheap plastic miniature male figures on individual thin plastic stands. NEVER was I gender confused or gay. At the age of twelve I bought my own Barbie without the permission nor help from anybody. This caused my parents to formulate all of the same arguments. There were No Sisters or or other female relatives living with us. The baby doll was just something to occupy my time with until I decided it was just to stained by dirt to keep. I requested a doll for my sixth birthday. It was just something to enjoy until old enough to do the hard work like my brothers. There was No question that I was a male. My parents never made a big deal of the toys until my purchase of Barbie. I needed the female doll to be the girlfriend and husband of my GI Joe. I was trying to through play to mimic my dad. He was the role model in the reasoning for buying it. However, the toy was destroyed upon finding it. There was yelling, name calling, and arguments about the bad effects of having it. This was not founded upon reality. I was male and enjoyed being with girls. I knew that my desire was to date and marry one when an adult. My decision was that this toy would not be denied me because of their unfounded fears and arguments. The more the destroyed only resulted in my purchase of more of them. I became an avid collector because of their actions. I've Never been gender confused. I Never was attracted to males. My favorite jobs required much hard labor and sweat. I love model ships and planes though hate real ones. I cannot swim and have an extreme fear of great heights. The toys represent Fantasy and not my Reality If having dolls would create gender confusion and homosexual behavior, why has it not been the case for other three decades. Why did I date and marry a female? The facts do not support the arguments. I love Barbies as Toys of Fantasy. They are only lifeless plastic objects in Reality. If he wants dolls, make him work hard for them. Make sure to keep teaching him about his responsibilty as a male to treat females and the female dolls. Never let him dress up in female clothes and accessories because this physically confuses the image of gender. My mom never would allow me to do it. The idea to do this Never entered my mind. My mom wore pants when working outside in the rough conditions. In the house, her favorite things were dresses with pockets. The fact that she worked hard and wore pants outside Never made me see her as a male. She was just my mom that wore what protected her skin from harm. Hope this helps you.

Calm down. He's FIVE. If he's "different" there nothing you can do but love him. There's reason people get childhoods. It's a journey to find out who you are. I know of just as many boys who played like girls as boys who played like boys. (Does he have sisters? That plays a factor - especially if he's the only boy, or the youngest.)

I was a real tomboy who didn't want dolls for Christmas, I wanted Tonka trucks. I did everything with the boys. They were worried. Hey, I thought girl toys were woosie - until I was 10 then it was dolls, dolls, dolls. I eventually changed my mind. I'm not gay, but I have a really masculine personality.

These things can't be predicted, but if you overreact or worry, he'll pick up on it on some level, and what's more damaging than him feeling he might be gay - is the sense that his mother thinks something is wrong with him. Cuz then, in his mind, something is. Pray over it and count your blessings.

He's healthy, he's happy, and he has a loving mom. What more can any kid ask for?

Good luck to you.

Watch him closely. Is he really playing like a girl or with girl toys? I have four year old that has a doll, but he is not playing with as girls do. Girls nurture and he was playing with the doll as a friend. Also encourage him to talk to you about what he is playing, what role does he take on in the games. It could simply be that he has no other easy choices but to play with girls. Running any different will make him feel out of place. BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY, if there a male influence around him, such as a father or older brother? If you hang around wolves, you will soon get an urge to howl like them too. In other words don't force the male influences on him unless you are really concerned, but definetly give him the option to choose truck over doll.....just make the truck bigger and better. Don't assume he is gay without exploring all possibilities and even still, he can grow out of it. Most boys think girls have cooties at some point, but another boy has to point them out first.

is there any way that he could be a transgender? Think about it, does he just play with the girls, or does he consider himself a girl? Ask him. Maybe buy him some really cool boy toys. I remeber my younger sister Jade getting a whole pile of dolls for her birthday and then all she played with for months after was a G.I. Joe and a tonka truck. Now shes 22 and engaged.

First, in my opinion, ignore what the physician and the therapist say.What does "Watch out for it" mean?Children have identity feelings at a very young age.It is true that it may be a phase if he plays mostly with girls, but I feel that sexual identity is formed in the womb.I am heterosexual, but can't imagine how awful it would be if someone wanted to ":change"me. It is just as impossible to change anyone' s sexual identity.All studies show that this is identified by xy factors or brain activity. There are uninformed people who think that this can be changed by therapy or religion, but all they accomplish is temporarily to convince a homosexual that he/she is heterosexual and they attempt to fit in, marry, have children and at some point can't live the lie anymore and a lot of people are hurt. You are very lucky if your son is gay and you recognize it instead of having some of tragedies that occur when parents are in denial or don't recognize it. If he is happy, let him be happy, because there will be ignorant people who may bully him.Tell him frequently that you love him just as he is. He won't understand that now, but most gay people recognize there feelings as do straight people. If you hear anyone say something disparaging about gay people, say "That is wrong to judge people, we are all different, there is nothing wrong with being different", or something to that effect. Every time I have heard a homosexual's story, they say that they knew at a very young age. I am sure you remember when you first were attracted to boys and nothing anyone said would have changed that.This little boy may grow up to do something special or have a talent just as homosexual children have the potential to do. I think it would be a good idea for you at some time to contact FFLAG which is an organization of friends and family of lesbians and gays. I think you should let him be himself, feel free to play as he likes and if he is gay, support him. He may not be gay, but either way, please don't worry or listen to negative people. This may sound awful, but I would chuck that therapist and find one who is accredited as a psychologist.The last person I would expect to say "watch out for this" would be an trained psychologist with a degree. There are so many talented, creative men and your son may grow up to be one of them and you will be very proud of him.Good luck and please don't worry. If you continue to worry , please contact FFLAG. I am sure you can google it. He is a lucky little boy to have a mother like you.

I would let your son do what he wants and encourage his interests. I don't think being gay is a gender identity issue. It's possible he might discover he's transgendered. Whatever the case, I really wouldn't worry about it. At some point, if any of these things are an issue, he'll bring them up. In the meantime, just let it go and raise your child and love him. Just imagine, he grows up to be a heterosexual man and you spent a year of his life fretting over him being queer. A parent doing that, in itself, seems to me would cause some kind of psychological damage. Or imagine, he grows up to be gay, and you started plotting at the age of five how to prevent that - not going to feel really loved and accepted. Just let it go.

i had doll at 3 but i relised i was bi sexual 8 yrs old

it could be a phase, or he could be gay. don't worry about it, just love him no matter what.