my girlfriend is being distant?
the girlfriend i am with now i have been with on different ocasions this time i dont know what to do the past 2.5 months have been fine and then about 5 days ago she goes wierd on me becoming very distant and stopped having sex about 2 days ago she asked me to go round a friends because its getting to much for her us being around each other so i did and worked but its not seeming to be helping the last time she was like this i was single within a couple of days but this time round she has told be diff stuff from last time, like she thinks im her soulmate and she loves me sooo much, im just scared that iv just moved in with her and im going become single and homeless, SOMEONE PLZ HELP!
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Hey Andrew. Man, I feel your pain... It feels awful when things seem to be going so good and then your girlfriend does a 180 and starts acting cold and distant. I say I feel your pain because I don't know one guy who hasn't experienced what you're going through now.
Yes, there's something about women that makes them get distant all of a sudden. First they seem hot, then out of the blue cold. Fortunately, there is a reason why she's acting that way and it's not because of you!
This article about women playing hard to get and distant all of a sudden explains why woman act like this and what you can do about it: http://www.attractwomencoach-john.com/shes-playing...
The gist of it is that women are instinctively defensive. Everyone has their baggage from past relationships and those memories prompt women to be careful around their new boyfriends. Think of it this way, what would you do if your ex hurt you really bad? You wouldn’t be as open to committing and showing affection the next time around, and if you did, you would still have doubts, right?
While men are more bold, women will be more careful. That said, your girlfriend is acting like that just because of her own insecurity and because she needs time to figure out how she feels about you.
To put it another way, her rational mind is just figuring out how to deal with what her heart and body already know: that she wants you :) After all, her rational mind did choose to move in with you!
So, that's awesome news! All you need to do is continue to give her space - that is what she needs. And trust me, since she's already attracted to you with body and heart, her mind won't be able to resits the idea. In the mean time, be the most interesting guy ever. Go out with your friends and pursue your interests. You don't want to chase her, but make her think "Wow, this guy's fun and has a lot going on. I want to have fun with him too."
And believe me, she will warm up. When she does, be the best guy ever. Don't chase, but be confident and she will feel safe and secure in your presence. She will think to herself, "I was really silly for doubting this great guy. What was I thinking?"
All that said, trust me my friend. I've had plenty of experience of dealing with this. You seem like a good guy and I can honestly say that you'll be alright. Again, don't chase, just give her space to get used to the idea that you are quite a catch and that you're not the guy who's going to hurt her.
I don't think you'll need it, but best of luck anyway.
If this is ya'll first time moving in together she might just need some space.