I am a pretty emotional person... I even get all teary eyed watching Maury (The happy ones). Anyways, my grandfather passed away 2 weeks ago and the funeral is this weekend. I realized today that I don't have any appropriate clothing. I called all of my friends to see if they could go shopping with me, but they were all working, so when my husband got home I asked him if he would go with me. He said "Do I have to".. and i said "Well, im worried that its really going to hit me and that I might start crying once I start trying on clothes for my grandpas funeral".. so my husband said "Okay, just give me 30 minutes"... So i wait 45 minutes, and then we get into the car and go.. He doesn't complain at all until we are HALF WAY TO THE MALL, and all of a sudden he just BLOWS UP and starts saying "I dont want to f-ing go shopping, You know how much i hate shopping, why the F are you making me do this?"... and I said "WTF why are you all of a sudden bitching".. and then he gets mad.. turns the car around to go home... Since it was MY car I said "K well get out and walk home then because I need to find clothes TO WEAR TO MY GRAND FATHERS FUNERAL" (Since I fly out tomorrow).... So he actually pulls the car over (Almost hitting the curb cuz hes so angry).. gets out of the car without saying a word and starts walking home.... All of this happened within 5 minutes. So I got into the drivers seat, drove off to the mall and went myself.. it was very hard trying to find something while having my dead grandfather on my mind and a very un-caring husband.. Hes not even going to the funeral (We couldnt afford the plane tickets).. so im not going to have the emotional support there.. All I wanted was an hour of my husbands time to go and find something that was decent (I also have never been to a funeral before so i wasnt sure what to wear, so I ended up having to have the Sales lady help me)
Anyways, I have no desire to speak to my husband what so ever.. It's not WHAT He did.. its the carelessness behind it.. My grandfather is dead and all I needed was some emotional support looking for clothes for the funeral, and my husband treats me like IM THE BAD GUY because heaven forbid he comes shopping with me...
What do you think about all of thisÉ
Update:Like do I have a right to be angry over something like this? My mother told me "Hes a man, and hates shopping, you should get used to it".... But its not like I was shopping for fun!!!!! I was shopping because someone DIED! Like come on!!
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Im not trying to defend ur husband, cause well its obvious that he actted like a immature, cold hearted idiot.. but i do try to see it from both sides , because well theres always his side, her side, and the truth.. now i do have to say i find it odd that ur grandfather passed away 2 weeks ago and their just getting around to burying him.. usually the funeral is within a few days of passing or within a week of passing, but nonetheless.. but the point is.. u waited until the night before you left to hurry around and go find something to wear? I mean u did have 2 weeks to prepare for this.. and u still waited till the night before , and then he probably felt he had to pay for you procrastinating .. U already know he's not one to want to go shopping, but then to spring it on him after he just got off work, and probably all he wanted to do was come home and rest for the night but now he's suddenly feeling like he has to go do something last minute cause u chose to wait till the last minute to get something done.. again, i dont think his actions were right.. i do think he actting extremely immature about the situation.. and did atleast wait till after the funeral to show his dislike for how u handled things.. but was it really fair to him that u chose to wait so long ? was if fair to him to expect him to just jump when u said jump because you chose to procrastinate? And u have to remember he doesnt have the same feelings for your grandfather that u do.. so to expect him to fully understand how ur feeling would be unfair although he should of been sympathetic to your feelings. All im saying is sometimes you have to find your own accountability in a situation.. he was definately wrong for how he handled this.. but i think you were wrong for expecting so much out of your husband because u chose to wait till the last minute especially when u had 2 weeks to be prepared..
I'd start thinking about going to Hawaii after the funeral, to think where you want to live after you divorce that pie whole.
Pretty simple
You are going to a funeral tomorrow, and accidents happen all the time,
and your idiot of a husband cannot even be thinking of you and your needs in a time like this.
WOW! Just think how'd he be if you had an accident and was bed ridden for 3 weeks.
Go to the funeral and work out where you want to live and divorce him,
you should no have to be tormented like that
Could it be that...even before your grandfather's demise...you were too wrapped up in your own emotions (being an EMOTIONAL person)...
....that you've forgotten his along the way?
He might just be a jerk. I don't think you would have married a jerk. But maybe you did.
Or...he could be a good guy...who simply has had enough of catering to your emotional displays without getting any consideration in return.
So at a time when you need him most...you find him disconnected, selfish, and angry.
Be certain that you haven't cried "Wolf" with your emotions one too many times.
Good Luck!
You know, after reading all these questions, and knowing my life and my fellow wives lives - all our husbands are selfish pigs.
Sorry - but i would write him a letter telling him that he is a selfish pig and you do not want to see or speak to him unless he changes.
It's funny as hell that he had to walk his a.s.s. home. I'd of left him on the side of the road too and drove off without him.
i think if money is an issue thats whats really annoying him especially if you go shopping alot. I think this time he failed to deferentiate .
give him time to cool off dont think about him if hes worth it he will apologise when you get back let him instigate contact because that means hes over it
Men are wierd with anything death related.
The End.
hmm he sounds like a duche bag to me